Another post that had been sitting in the draft pile.
“I’d learned that some things are best kept secret.”
I was told a secret the other day. A big, dark, potentially dangerous secret that I must keep to myself, for risk of people finding out the truth could lead to devastation to the world that is surrounding me. Jobs would be lost, people could go to jail and a lot of individual’s lives would be greatly impacted. Am I in the wrong for keeping this held in? Right now I am yet to decide whether the pro’s outweigh the con’s and how much of an impact it could have if I were to say nothing and the secret came to light by another means. Fortunately I’m pretty strong minded and nothing really phases me, but this is pretty … (I have no word to put here)
However this has got me thinking about how powerful secrets are and the effect they can have on an individual, whether kept and untold, burdening another with your secret or spread as gossip like wildfire. (Obviously I’m not talking about everyday secrets here like who you’re crushing on, shoplifting when you was 10 etc etc)
When you are told a secret, you are bound by a verbal contract with someone that you will keep it that, a secret. As you grow older and wiser you realise there are less and less people you can truly trust (as quoted by Benjamin Franklin), and less secrets are actually kept private.
Some people are rather weak minded and mentally cannot cope with the pressure. Some people just love a gossip, after all its one of the easiest ways to flow a conversation. Some people just don’t care for other people’s private lives, we all have our own to deal with right. I always think before I take it upon myself to burden another with a secret; Do they need to know? What are the chances of it getting out if I tell them? Do they need the hassle of knowing what I’m going to tell them? What effects will it have on their live’s by knowing? … Most of the time I come to the conclusion that I’d rather keep most things to myself, life’s just easier that way!
It’s been a while,
– The Bloggerman